In many homes in our society a coup has occurred. The children have taken over. The adults as parent figures are no longer in charge. Children are not listening to their parents any more. Parents cannot get them to follow instructions at home. And what is interesting is that a lot of these parents are individuals who manage other adults at their jobs and do so effectively, but are unable to manage their own children at home. I have a notion as to the reason for this. Parents seem to have forgotten that the relationship they should be cultivating with their children is not just a caring relationship but a corrective relationship as well. Many parents want to be friends with their children or to be liked by them. Your child is not your friend. Your goal is not to get her or him to like you. She or he is your responsibility, and that responsibility involves providing both care and correction. I shall be going into specifics on this issue in the future. Stay tuned.
[Artwork by Ric Couchman]